Mommy Time Outs
Have you ever had a day where you needed a mommy time out away from all your responsibilities? Being a mom is the toughest job I have ever had! I have 3 little crazies running around needing me every moment no matter what I'm doing or where we are. I have a love hate relationship with these moments. I love that my kids need and want me, not to mention knowing that they can come to me when they need.I love that the trust they have in me is more then enough to fix their problems. I will be honest though, if the bathroom door is closed, please don't come running in unless the house is on fire, I know it can wait. Another favorite is when I'm cooking, for the love of all that's good, leave mommy alone after a long day when she is near hot things, Mommy can I help....I promise! I would give anything some days to just get away.... sometimes that time is at 9am (I have early risers) sometimes noon and other times I can make it to bed time. No matter what, we all need some mommy space.
We need time to breath and gather our thoughts. I like to call these "Mommy Time Outs." Some people might think that I am a bad mom for wanting to get away from my kids from time to time, every few days, every day....it doesn't matter. I don't ask people to like me, but I want to be real, I want to be honest because I am not living in sunshine and rainbows here in my home. If you do, well...I'm not going to go there. Life isn't perfect so I won't pretend it is. I like to not go completely crazy at kindergarten pick up at 3:30. Some might agree with me and to that I say "high five" we need to be best friends. You guys, I am not even 30 and I have more gray hair than my mom. Each gray is named one of 3 names, Neacel who has been providing gray since 2008, Brody since 2010 who is my lazy producer and Macey my mass gray hair producer since 2012. Please don't get me wrong, I love my kids more then anything but I also love not needing a special white jacket in a white fluffy room!
By 8:30 all kids are dressed, fed and I am ready to go to my workout class. Go to grab keys around 8:50 after fighting about why we wear socks with shoes, keys aren't in my purse. They are always in my purse or on the counter. Neither place provided my keys, after searching the house like a mad woman (workout keeps me sane, I need and want it) I break down in tears. I am past panic crazy mom mode. My keys are special. They have the only van key, mailbox key, house key, spare car key and other random keys, either way missing my keys means we are stranded which I can not handle so early in the day. I get to workout after finding the keys in the most random of spots about 20 minutes late, why go you ask, because if not, mommies time out was going to happen in a bubble bath at 9:30 am with all the kids locked in their rooms.
Class was interesting thanks to my Macey (running around, washing her hands in the men's toilet, washing her face while standing in the kitchen sink, etc). Then she throws the mother of all tantrums as I tell her she can't go home with my friend Amber.... this resulted in a 15 minute tantrum in the parking lot, sending mommy to the insane part of her brain filled with tears and really loud music on the drive home. We get home, only to leave 20 minutes later to take Neacel to school. Que Macey tantrum over olives and not being able to watch Despicable Me. We drop him off while Macey screams the whole time, get home and I get Despicable Me on and a cup of olives for her so that I can shower. Anything to get away!
Brody was left in charge, he was to come and get me if Macey even got off the couch. Well, he ran up to tell me Macey got off the couch and dumped something out. I panic run downstairs half dressed to find a Costco sized container of hummus all over my coffee table (which has groves in it), in her hair, on my dishwasher which was open and had hummus on clean dishes, on and in the fridge. Que mommy tears for the 6th time today! It was barely NOON! So, she was sent to her room because I had nothing nice to say and the nice mommy voice was turning into a really mean mommy voice. Luckily, it was almost time for school pick up. I panicked over the thought of another tantrum, but rejoiced at the thought of "girlfriend is taking a nap today!"
My daughter doesn't normally nap, in fact its a rare special occasion if she does. We got Neacel from school and rushed home to lay her down for a nap. It was seriously the best part of my day thus far. I think I had taken about 5 time outs today and they do help. They help me handle the next situation a lot better than if I hadn't take that time to breath and catch my happy thoughts before they fly away.
Lets talk about now, I have taken a small nap on the couch, ate crap I shouldn't have and here I sit in my closet under the stairs, writing this to you at 5pm! I already plan on running to Little Ceasers for dinner because I'm still in time out mode, I already have a Redbox reserved and plan on grabbing popcorn. I still need to relax a little more, my brain hurts from today and I still have puffy, mommy-crying-eyes. My boys are being awesome, which is rare for the both of them on the same day. We won't focus on that, I might jinx it!
I know you are thinking to yourself "Why is she sharing this?" Well, haven't you had a day like this? Haven't you needed to just run away for 5 minutes? Haven't you cried so much in one day that you have puffy eyes??? My shower and nap have been the best part of my day, 2 things that I don't always get in the same day. Being a mom is tough and it is really hard to handle the weight of the world on your shoulders. I am here to say go eat a bowl of ice cream and cry it out in your closet if you need to! No excuse needed. Go turn on a movie for the kids and curl up to read a book and ignore any requests for 15 minutes! It is ok, I promise. Go grab dessert with a friend in the middle of the day after getting a babysitter for kids at home. Dessert is best when kids aren't around.
We need to remember ourselves, we can't give to others properly if we aren't taken care of. My kids know mommy isn't very nice till about 7 am once I am dressed and ready to go workout. It's my morning thing, some moms need coffee, I need my workout clothes and brushed teeth!